Want to Walk Down the Aisle Solo? Here Are 3 Important Things to Consider

When I was planning my wedding, there were many things I was certain of, including that I wanted to walk up the aisle alone. My parents are divorced and the image of having someone on both arms just felt forced (not to mention awkwardly wide for the small chapel). I considered a few other options, returning each time to it being just me, solo. I didn't give it much thought until our rehearsal the day before the wedding, whereupon I had some questions.

Who's going to do the hard labor?

I realized it's nearly impossible for a bride to be all alone—you need someone to open any doors. If you're at a venue with staff or have a coordinator, this might not be an issue for you (just make sure someone knows it's their job). In my case, there wouldn't be anyone outside of the chapel but me unless I purposefully had someone there. I was faced with picking someone pronto and asked a favorite cousin if he'd do the honor.

You'll want some psychological support.

Until the very moment it happened, as my bridesmaids were walking up and away, down the aisle, I had no idea what a psychological support he'd be. I hadn't considered that when assigning him the job, but knowing what I do now, there could be no better choice. Broad-shouldered and with a rugby player's build, he straightened my dress and helped fix my veil like a professional. Nerves I wasn't expecting popped up—"Do I look OK? How is my hair?"—and he responded calmly. When he confirmed I was ready, he opened the little wooden door, gave me a grin I didn't know I'd need, and sent me on my way.

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(Me and my cousin outside the chapel.)

It's a good chance to give someone a special role.

Those tender moments have become some of my most favorite from the day, all the more so because I wasn't expecting them at all. It was surprisingly intimate, making it a good chance to honor someone you're close with who might not fit in the bridal party or a more traditional role. Whether it's a close friend, a favorite aunt or uncle, or a cousin like mine that you've grown up with, consider asking that person to stay out with you until the last minute and slip into a seat at the back once all the attention is on you as you're walking to the altar.

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